You see a picture of a cute girl or guy. So far, so good. However, they write something that sends warning bells to you. Perhaps things you see women (or men) do continuously in different profiles and it either annoys you, makes you avoid them, or something else.
Lets help each other and suggest things to say or not to say or perhaps we're not saying enough.
You see a picture of a cute girl or guy. So far, so good. However, they write something that sends warning bells to you. Perhaps things you see women (or men) do continuously in different profiles and it either annoys you, makes you avoid them, or something else.
Lets help each other and suggest things to say or not to say or perhaps we're not saying enough.
I agree. There is no perfect profile, however, this is an opportunity to express what you want and don't want, so take advantage of it. I do not post a photo, because I used to work in law enforcement and there are people with felony criminal pasts. I do not hold anyone to the past, but there are those that once released if they have the chance to hurt someone - whether they continue to work in law enforcement or not, they would do those people bodily harm. Also, I find that looks do not maintain a relaltionship. Brad won't marry Angelina, both have been involved in previous marriages. Halle, Christie (Brinkley), Maria Carey, and many other people with money, power, and physical beauty - physical beauty is not a way to a secure relationship.
I agree. There is no perfect profile, however, this is an opportunity to express what you want and don't want, so take advantage of it. I do not post a photo, because I used to work in law enforcement and there are people with felony criminal pasts. I do not hold anyone to the past, but there are those that once released if they have the chance to hurt someone - whether they continue to work in law enforcement or not, they would do those people bodily harm. Also, I find that looks do not maintain a relaltionship. Brad won't marry Angelina, both have been involved in previous marriages. Halle, Christie (Brinkley), Maria Carey, and many other people with money, power, and physical beauty - physical beauty is not a way to a secure relationship.
I think people put comments like no players at times not because they have been hurt, it is a warning up front. I will give you an example. I was on a site similar to this one for singles. The one person - a very nice guy, decided that since he and his wife were not on good terms he would date and find a relaltionship. He was honest about being married, but he just did not understand that it was a turn off. Further, he had no intentions on getting a divorce. I finally had a talk with him and explained that women looking for a serious relationship were not going to want to get serious with him - as I explained he was unavailable.
I think people put comments like no players at times not because they have been hurt, it is a warning up front. I will give you an example. I was on a site similar to this one for singles. The one person - a very nice guy, decided that since he and his wife were not on good terms he would date and find a relaltionship. He was honest about being married, but he just did not understand that it was a turn off. Further, he had no intentions on getting a divorce. I finally had a talk with him and explained that women looking for a serious relationship were not going to want to get serious with him - as I explained he was unavailable.
I never assume anything when i see no pic posted. Really attractive people sometimes don't post one because they don't want to be accepted for the same reason someone "unattractive" doesn't want to be rejected. For their looks. Someone who posts what they don't want(players.drama)yes that may say baggage. It might pose a challenge for exactly what they want to avoid. But if that is how they feel..I would rather them be honest. I watch for things that show they have less respect and admiration for the opposite sex than they should. I watch for people that look like they might have something in common with me. There really is no perfect profile. But I think the most important thing is too be honest. If the wrong person responds..they have no beef when you don't deal with them.
I never assume anything when i see no pic posted. Really attractive people sometimes don't post one because they don't want to be accepted for the same reason someone "unattractive" doesn't want to be rejected. For their looks. Someone who posts what they don't want(players.drama)yes that may say baggage. It might pose a challenge for exactly what they want to avoid. But if that is how they feel..I would rather them be honest. I watch for things that show they have less respect and admiration for the opposite sex than they should. I watch for people that look like they might have something in common with me. There really is no perfect profile. But I think the most important thing is too be honest. If the wrong person responds..they have no beef when you don't deal with them.
I totally comprehend you. However, I do believe it is different for all of us. There are signs that make me (personally) leery:
A BRIEF SKETCH OF ME? Four (4) or more 'please ask me' There are approximately 17 direct and pertinent questions (with the exception of income)? Why would someone put 'please ask me' to more than four? If one is that secretive, a dating site might not be the best venue in which to find a special someone. (This is my viewpoint only and there may be several valid reasons why people do this, but it just strikes me as odd).
MY MATCH/FRIEND - AN OUTLINE? Seven (7) or more are 'No preference' Makes me think the person is indecisiveness, impatient, not being forthright or not selective enough.
PHOTOS Silhouettes This is one I am trying hardest to overcome! And with absolutely beautiful people like preferblackman, phea44 and anewworld...it is embarrassing for me to admit. However, when it comes to men, I am extremely apprehensive of Silhouettes.
Hello Arsenal,
I totally comprehend you. However, I do believe it is different for all of us. There are signs that make me (personally) leery:
A BRIEF SKETCH OF ME? Four (4) or more 'please ask me' There are approximately 17 direct and pertinent questions (with the exception of income)? Why would someone put 'please ask me' to more than four? If one is that secretive, a dating site might not be the best venue in which to find a special someone. (This is my viewpoint only and there may be several valid reasons why people do this, but it just strikes me as odd).
MY MATCH/FRIEND - AN OUTLINE? Seven (7) or more are 'No preference' Makes me think the person is indecisiveness, impatient, not being forthright or not selective enough.
PHOTOS Silhouettes This is one I am trying hardest to overcome! And with absolutely beautiful people like preferblackman, phea44 and anewworld...it is embarrassing for me to admit. However, when it comes to men, I am extremely apprehensive of Silhouettes.
Not that a profile has to be perfect. However, there are certain things that I notice that make me apprehensive. For example. If all I read is 'no players, no drama, no cheaters or no lying. And that's about all I read. We've all been hurt. However, as one of the 'good guys' and I may be the only guy that takes issue with it. However, to me I am anticipating someone who has been hurt badly in the past and is not happy. They may be very happy, warm, cheerful, etc. But I think its obvious no woman wants a player. Players are gonna email anyone, even the ones that say they not to. Why? They see a challenge. Just my opinion but it sends a message some guys who have good intentions and may be a match that they may end up paying for what the last guy(s) did.
Not that a profile has to be perfect. However, there are certain things that I notice that make me apprehensive. For example. If all I read is 'no players, no drama, no cheaters or no lying. And that's about all I read. We've all been hurt. However, as one of the 'good guys' and I may be the only guy that takes issue with it. However, to me I am anticipating someone who has been hurt badly in the past and is not happy. They may be very happy, warm, cheerful, etc. But I think its obvious no woman wants a player. Players are gonna email anyone, even the ones that say they not to. Why? They see a challenge. Just my opinion but it sends a message some guys who have good intentions and may be a match that they may end up paying for what the last guy(s) did.
refer to 'Preaching To the Choir'.... it applies here as well... the point is moot... there is no such thing as the perfect profile... only those who are experiencing a lackaluck look for the 'right' fillins... that being the case then it becomes a scam... a come-on, baiting the hook, brown baggin' flim-flam, deception... answers are clues, no answers are clues... ditto on pics and no pics... what you read is not what you get...better odds at spin-dating....
the perfect answer... show up on your first meeting with a brown bag over your head... lemme know how THAT works out...
refer to 'Preaching To the Choir'.... it applies here as well... the point is moot... there is no such thing as the perfect profile... only those who are experiencing a lackaluck look for the 'right' fillins... that being the case then it becomes a scam... a come-on, baiting the hook, brown baggin' flim-flam, deception... answers are clues, no answers are clues... ditto on pics and no pics... what you read is not what you get...better odds at spin-dating....
the perfect answer... show up on your first meeting with a brown bag over your head... lemme know how THAT works out...
