Am I the only who sort of gets burned out on these sites after a while? You post a profile, upload your photos; and then, you wait... Every now and then someone visits and peeks in, but they don't leave a "business card" (email!) to say: I stopped by! And then of course you get some unwanted visitors who seem to linger! (smile) And ahhh, there's the "silent" one who receives your email, peeks in to check out your profile and says neither "yay" or "nay". Say something, we are all grown ups here. I wish I were a mind reader but I am not... Is my prince charming here? Please get me off this carousel--I'm becoming very dizzy and frazzled! (smile) Any thoughts, my fellow sojourners? :)
Am I the only who sort of gets burned out on these sites after a while? You post a profile, upload your photos; and then, you wait... Every now and then someone visits and peeks in, but they don't leave a "business card" (email!) to say: I stopped by! And then of course you get some unwanted visitors who seem to linger! (smile) And ahhh, there's the "silent" one who receives your email, peeks in to check out your profile and says neither "yay" or "nay". Say something, we are all grown ups here. I wish I were a mind reader but I am not... Is my prince charming here? Please get me off this carousel--I'm becoming very dizzy and frazzled! (smile) Any thoughts, my fellow sojourners? :)
Eternallyyours, don't give up. The ones who don't respond just don't deserve your affection or your time. If they will be that rude and not respond or don't see precious person that you are, then they are not worth it. Just view the rejection as being God's protection! But I know how you feel. One day, that special man is going to come along! And when he comes, you are going to know it. Hang in there!
Quoting eternallyyours
I paid tons of money on eharmony and no one answers me back. No one writes to me everyone posts back not interested. I just don't feel optimistic about love. That one is suppose to be for people looking for relationships and love. I just think people are picky.
Quoting eternallyyours
I paid tons of money on eharmony and no one answers me back. No one writes to me everyone posts back not interested. I just don't feel optimistic about love. That one is suppose to be for people looking for relationships and love. I just think people are picky.
Eternallyyours, don't give up. The ones who don't respond just don't deserve your affection or your time. If they will be that rude and not respond or don't see precious person that you are, then they are not worth it. Just view the rejection as being God's protection! But I know how you feel. One day, that special man is going to come along! And when he comes, you are going to know it. Hang in there!
I paid tons of money on eharmony and no one answers me back. No one writes to me everyone posts back not interested. I just don't feel optimistic about love. That one is suppose to be for people looking for relationships and love. I just think people are picky.
I paid tons of money on eharmony and no one answers me back. No one writes to me everyone posts back not interested. I just don't feel optimistic about love. That one is suppose to be for people looking for relationships and love. I just think people are picky.
Well, when it comes to "blind" dates, more often than not one of the two participants is severely disappointed. I think people realized that it wasn't worth the risk of losing a friend.
Well, when it comes to "blind" dates, more often than not one of the two participants is severely disappointed. I think people realized that it wasn't worth the risk of losing a friend.
Well said, M1918A1. I sometimes wonder whatever happened to the friend who would set you up with their friend (blind date)? (smile) Thanks for posting again.
Quoting M1918A1
I agree that it is common courtesy to reply. I have always taken the time to respond to anyone who has taken the time to contact me. I even go as far as to reply to the obvious scammers with one of the "thanks, but not interested" winks. It isn't difficult and even if you get a dozen emails a day it really only takes a few minutes to respond to all of them.......What it comes down to is this: The vast majority of the people that put profiles on these sites do so only because it is required to have a profile to look at the pictures. After a week or so they have satisfied their curiosity and rarely, if ever come back. If they don't ever come back, they won't ever see the emails or winks that they may have gotten....not that it would really matter because they aren't really looking anyway. When you subtract the curious, the scammers, the fakes, and the people looking for a weekend hookup, you are left with a small core of people that are seriously here to find someone. I think that for the most part, the serious ones actually do make an effort to be polite and respond to people that show interest.
Quoting M1918A1
I agree that it is common courtesy to reply. I have always taken the time to respond to anyone who has taken the time to contact me. I even go as far as to reply to the obvious scammers with one of the "thanks, but not interested" winks. It isn't difficult and even if you get a dozen emails a day it really only takes a few minutes to respond to all of them.......What it comes down to is this: The vast majority of the people that put profiles on these sites do so only because it is required to have a profile to look at the pictures. After a week or so they have satisfied their curiosity and rarely, if ever come back. If they don't ever come back, they won't ever see the emails or winks that they may have gotten....not that it would really matter because they aren't really looking anyway. When you subtract the curious, the scammers, the fakes, and the people looking for a weekend hookup, you are left with a small core of people that are seriously here to find someone. I think that for the most part, the serious ones actually do make an effort to be polite and respond to people that show interest.
Well said, M1918A1. I sometimes wonder whatever happened to the friend who would set you up with their friend (blind date)? (smile) Thanks for posting again.
I agree that it is common courtesy to reply. I have always taken the time to respond to anyone who has taken the time to contact me. I even go as far as to reply to the obvious scammers with one of the "thanks, but not interested" winks. It isn't difficult and even if you get a dozen emails a day it really only takes a few minutes to respond to all of them.......What it comes down to is this: The vast majority of the people that put profiles on these sites do so only because it is required to have a profile to look at the pictures. After a week or so they have satisfied their curiosity and rarely, if ever come back. If they don't ever come back, they won't ever see the emails or winks that they may have gotten....not that it would really matter because they aren't really looking anyway. When you subtract the curious, the scammers, the fakes, and the people looking for a weekend hookup, you are left with a small core of people that are seriously here to find someone. I think that for the most part, the serious ones actually do make an effort to be polite and respond to people that show interest.
I agree that it is common courtesy to reply. I have always taken the time to respond to anyone who has taken the time to contact me. I even go as far as to reply to the obvious scammers with one of the "thanks, but not interested" winks. It isn't difficult and even if you get a dozen emails a day it really only takes a few minutes to respond to all of them.......What it comes down to is this: The vast majority of the people that put profiles on these sites do so only because it is required to have a profile to look at the pictures. After a week or so they have satisfied their curiosity and rarely, if ever come back. If they don't ever come back, they won't ever see the emails or winks that they may have gotten....not that it would really matter because they aren't really looking anyway. When you subtract the curious, the scammers, the fakes, and the people looking for a weekend hookup, you are left with a small core of people that are seriously here to find someone. I think that for the most part, the serious ones actually do make an effort to be polite and respond to people that show interest.
Ironeyes, thank you for the good humor and putting it all in perspective! I have never quite looked at it that way, but you seem to be on to something. Thanks again for taking the time to post!
Quoting ironeyes
It all seems simple enough on it's face, or so a rational person may think... You post a profile after rolling around wrestling with what/how much/how short or how long. Since a profile is a living, breathing thing, (humor me, just play along for a bit ;^) just like humans; (subject to change, evolve etc...) you edit accordingly. You try to be proactive and "put it out there" (nothing ventured, nothing gained right?) or you you hope someone recognizes what a "great person" you are. (closed mouths never get fed!) Exercise in futility? Could be... But aren't we all kind of holding on to something called hope? Frustrating much? Oh my, yes! But what can you do except give up or keep trying? I can definitely relate to the whole "weary traveler in a strange land" feeling. At least a soujourner/pilgrim eventually gets a glimpse of their destination... We weary travelers are blessed to be able to stop for a while to rest under a shade tree and shake the sand out of our shoes. ...Now if some shepherd's daughter would wander by and help me draw cool water from the well! HAH! XD Best of luck to everyone!
Quoting ironeyes
It all seems simple enough on it's face, or so a rational person may think... You post a profile after rolling around wrestling with what/how much/how short or how long. Since a profile is a living, breathing thing, (humor me, just play along for a bit ;^) just like humans; (subject to change, evolve etc...) you edit accordingly. You try to be proactive and "put it out there" (nothing ventured, nothing gained right?) or you you hope someone recognizes what a "great person" you are. (closed mouths never get fed!) Exercise in futility? Could be... But aren't we all kind of holding on to something called hope? Frustrating much? Oh my, yes! But what can you do except give up or keep trying? I can definitely relate to the whole "weary traveler in a strange land" feeling. At least a soujourner/pilgrim eventually gets a glimpse of their destination... We weary travelers are blessed to be able to stop for a while to rest under a shade tree and shake the sand out of our shoes. ...Now if some shepherd's daughter would wander by and help me draw cool water from the well! HAH! XD Best of luck to everyone!
Ironeyes, thank you for the good humor and putting it all in perspective! I have never quite looked at it that way, but you seem to be on to something. Thanks again for taking the time to post!
It all seems simple enough on it's face, or so a rational person may think... You post a profile after rolling around wrestling with what/how much/how short or how long. Since a profile is a living, breathing thing, (humor me, just play along for a bit ;^) just like humans; (subject to change, evolve etc...) you edit accordingly. You try to be proactive and "put it out there" (nothing ventured, nothing gained right?) or you you hope someone recognizes what a "great person" you are. (closed mouths never get fed!) Exercise in futility? Could be... But aren't we all kind of holding on to something called hope? Frustrating much? Oh my, yes! But what can you do except give up or keep trying? I can definitely relate to the whole "weary traveler in a strange land" feeling. At least a soujourner/pilgrim eventually gets a glimpse of their destination... We weary travelers are blessed to be able to stop for a while to rest under a shade tree and shake the sand out of our shoes. ...Now if some shepherd's daughter would wander by and help me draw cool water from the well! HAH! XD Best of luck to everyone!
It all seems simple enough on it's face, or so a rational person may think... You post a profile after rolling around wrestling with what/how much/how short or how long. Since a profile is a living, breathing thing, (humor me, just play along for a bit ;^) just like humans; (subject to change, evolve etc...) you edit accordingly. You try to be proactive and "put it out there" (nothing ventured, nothing gained right?) or you you hope someone recognizes what a "great person" you are. (closed mouths never get fed!) Exercise in futility? Could be... But aren't we all kind of holding on to something called hope? Frustrating much? Oh my, yes! But what can you do except give up or keep trying? I can definitely relate to the whole "weary traveler in a strange land" feeling. At least a soujourner/pilgrim eventually gets a glimpse of their destination... We weary travelers are blessed to be able to stop for a while to rest under a shade tree and shake the sand out of our shoes. ...Now if some shepherd's daughter would wander by and help me draw cool water from the well! HAH! XD Best of luck to everyone!
Thank you, Dave! It's interesting to read that you guys experience the same frustration! -Andrea
Quoting dave45039
You are absolutely right Tambra, The online introduction services eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. I personally reached that point some time ago and quit using any of them except for this site because of it's blogging. A year or so ago this site had some very interesting bloggers and some of the debates that developed were worth the subscription price. Other than that I've personally found that this site is somewhat limited in it's reach in my part of the country. Good luck.....Dave
Quoting dave45039
You are absolutely right Tambra, The online introduction services eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. I personally reached that point some time ago and quit using any of them except for this site because of it's blogging. A year or so ago this site had some very interesting bloggers and some of the debates that developed were worth the subscription price. Other than that I've personally found that this site is somewhat limited in it's reach in my part of the country. Good luck.....Dave
Thank you, Dave! It's interesting to read that you guys experience the same frustration! -Andrea
Thank you, M1918A. And it really shouldn't be that way. After all, we are all grown ups here. If someone takes the time to write to you. At least respond and say thank you. Thanks again for posting!
Quoting M1918A1
Thats how it seems to work on these sites. Email is rarely answered. After a while you lose interest and let your paid status lapse.
Quoting M1918A1
Thats how it seems to work on these sites. Email is rarely answered. After a while you lose interest and let your paid status lapse.
Thank you, M1918A. And it really shouldn't be that way. After all, we are all grown ups here. If someone takes the time to write to you. At least respond and say thank you. Thanks again for posting!
You are absolutely right Tambra, The online introduction services eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. I personally reached that point some time ago and quit using any of them except for this site because of it's blogging. A year or so ago this site had some very interesting bloggers and some of the debates that developed were worth the subscription price. Other than that I've personally found that this site is somewhat limited in it's reach in my part of the country. Good luck.....Dave
You are absolutely right Tambra, The online introduction services eventually reach a point of diminishing returns. I personally reached that point some time ago and quit using any of them except for this site because of it's blogging. A year or so ago this site had some very interesting bloggers and some of the debates that developed were worth the subscription price. Other than that I've personally found that this site is somewhat limited in it's reach in my part of the country. Good luck.....Dave
